I stopped making resolutions.
I used to be that person saying "I will do X" and "I will become Y." But, after years of never doing or becoming, I just decided to stop. I was tired of setting myself up for failure. Every time I failed to follow through on a resolution, I felt guilt and shame. Who needs that? I finally realized that the only person I was disappointing was myself.
Now, instead of resolutions, I take a look at my to do lists and decide which things need to get done in the upcoming year. If it's a big project or goal, I decide which particular steps need to get done in order to make progress on those items. It's kind of like resolutions, but I find that making things actionable works better for me. (Something about getting to cross things off a list is just so darn satisfying.)
Last year, I also decided to try doing little things to help me focus on what's important. I think about what thing we could do every month to come together as a family or which activities will help me relax. Then, I take all of this and put it in the front of my bullet journal. I limit myself to a two page spread for everything. That way, it's a reasonable amount of stuff for the coming year. Do I get to everything it? Of course not. But, I find that this has been achievable and non-guilt inducing way for me to get things done.
How do you set up for the new year?